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While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared.

Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she changed so much that she rarely feels anxiety around interactions with him. Elle shares how she is living a peaceful and joyful life in spite of the fact that she has been divorced for 8 years, co-parenting / parallel parenting her school age child with his dad (and has many years left to go before her child is emancipated). Elle shares specific tools and strategies she received from coaching that you too can use to minimize the stress and tension in your situation.

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The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion.

While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse. Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP.

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Today’s episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages.

We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder. Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was ‘robbed’ from your childhood.

As the spouse of the HCP, the promise for your future lies in keeping the focus on your healing and in changing behaviors that have not benefited you. If you struggle with this,we are here to support you.

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As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard.

Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!)

Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching. As a result of struggling to communicate with her narcissist ex-spouse and support her clients to do the same with theirs, Lindsey brilliantly applied her experience from her previous marketing career to design a simple yet powerful 5 step strategy to get you what you want from a narcissist.

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Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach.

HCPs do not respond to logic. Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fire of conflict you were trying to put out. You continually get hooked into his/her reality, react is frustration or discouragement with nothing changing

Today’s guests, Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle are experts in high conflict disputes and explain why your reasoning approach has not worked and what you need to do to communicate more effectively with the HCP in your life. Learn about the EAR and BIFF approaches that will forever change the way you interact and coparent with your HCP.

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them. Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.

Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning. Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully. Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.

Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why. Parenting post divorce may be equally challenging. Tune in to hear options for decision making and shared parenting time that puts the kids first.

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them. Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.

Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning. Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully. Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.

Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why. Parenting post divorce may be equally challenging. Tune in to hear options for decision making and shared parenting time that puts the kids first.

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality.

There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations. For the high conflict divorce, it can be enormously valuable to take advantage of the court’s ability to control the pace of the legal process, require a net worth statement and other financial documentation and include additional experts to help with custody and spousal support and asset distribution.

Today’s episode is filled with vital information on how to hire the right attorney, what to expect throughout the process, the do’s and don’ts of communicating with your high conflict spouse and the vital importance of setting realistic expectations around custody and finances. Information is power, today’s show will empower you to navigate your divorce with greater clarity and confidence.

Living with a narcissist is ‘crazy making’. Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior.

Today’s episode invites you into a ‘coaching experience’ where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence having been chiseled away in your dysfunctional marriage. Tune in to access powerful strategies to begin to feel confident and empowered. Learn how futile many of your efforts of engaging with your spouse have been and how to let go of those behaviors. Receive new ways of thinking and being that lead you through your divorce with greater calm and clarity and invite you into a new and immensely more pleasing life experience.

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COVID-19 is impacting our lives in many ways. For many of our listeners, this virus is affecting their plans to divorce, or how they might be dealing with a past divorce.

Topics in the program include:
Filing for divorce during our current Covid-19 situation How to deal with visitation during these times Financial implications of divorce at the current time Could current spousal support orders be modified if your ex's income changes due to loos of work And more
Join Steve Peck and attorney, Henry Gornbein for answers to these and other questions regarding the legal side of divorce during the coronavirus outbreak.

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If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today’s show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with. It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage. Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, coined the name 'Self Love Deficit Disorder' to explain codependency. Ross has invested significant personal and professional attention on understanding codependency, healing himself and helping others heal from codependency or Self Love Deficit Disorder.

In our conversation Ross explains why codependents attract pathological narcissists into their lives, the dysfunctional dance that takes place throughout your relationship and what you need to address in order to heal from your ‘self love deficit’ so that you never attract a narcissist into your life again. Ross leaves you with a few powerful strategies to break the chains of engagement with the narcissist and encourages you that when you do this powerful work, you are not just recovered, but cured for good!

Ross is the founder of www.selfloverecovery.com and author of “The Human Magnet Syndrome”. You can find him on Youtube sharing valuable wisdom around this topic.

If you are divorcing a narcissist and need more personal support, this is our specialty and we are here to support you...

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High conflict personalities drive high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are divorcing this type of personality, today ’s show helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type. You will begin to understand your spouse’s inability to manage his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality and not about you.

Our guest expert, Virginia Gilbert is a family and marriage therapist. She also sheds light on your part in the unhealthy dance of high conflict divorce. Most partners of high conflict personalities are caregivers or codependents, an equally unhealthy role in the relationship dynamic.

We discuss the tendency of the codependent to want to change the HCP, keep the peace, be triggered and reactive and take the HCP’s behavior personally. Virginia speaks to the trauma of being married to such a personality and the impact it has on your nervous system and therefore your behavior. Learning to trust yourself, put your needs first and heal your broken sense of self are a few of the topics covered in today ’s conversation.

The good news is your high conflict divorce can be a catalyst to focus on yourself, develop healthy perspectives and behaviors, heal and become empowered and renewed.

Join Steve and Toni in this week’s episode of Being Single Live from the “D” as they discover what it takes to develop confidence and work your way from Fearful to Fabulous with Author, Confidence Coach and Divorce Recovery expert Fiona Eckersley.

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Confidence Coach Fiona Eckersley discusses moving on from a surprise divorce and unlocking personal power Discovering a new normal of personal choices Creating new and positive self-talk How trauma can lead to new perspectives and create new personal experiences How gratitude can create daily satisfaction and positive thoughts
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Join Steve and Toni as they continue the journey of understanding and connection with Personal Development Coach and Author, Jonathon Aslay. On this episode of Being Single:
Mid-Life Dating and Relationship Coach Jonathon Aslay discusses self-love Setting intention with online dating profiles The inside scoop on what men really want How women can take the lead when reaching out to men- Be “NICE” Toni learns a lesson on judgment and expectations How silently sending love creates better experiences
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Toni and Steve are back with the 1st episode of 2020. Steve and Toni recently decided to start dating after years of knowing each other through hosting this show together.

This episode highlights Steve spending Christmas in Chicago and meeting Toni's family, and then traveling back to Detroit for New Years with Toni meeting Steve's family. Meeting the family of someone you just began dating can be quite interesting, to say the least.

Thanks for listening and being part of our Being Single family. We wish our listeners a healthy and happy New Year! (Follow us on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio or Instagram at: @BeingSingleRadio.)

The Anatomy of An Affair series with David Feder continues with Being Alone for The Holidays in Episode #7.

For many the significance of the Holiday Season is a combination of religious significance, gift-giving and reconnecting with friends and family. But after an affair, what once seemed easy is now more complicated. What is the right kind of gift to buy and what message do I want to give are now questions that need to be considered? While we once looked forward to spending time together this year we worry about how to manage the awkwardness that may exist.

And what about the kids, don’t they deserve to have a good Holiday Season? This is the time of year when some anticipate the arrival of Santa Claus, they look forward to spending time with parents, extended family and friends and they wonder whether the gift they so desire will be waiting for them.

How you spend time is not an all or nothing proposition and it is often best to give each other permission to have some alone time apart from one another. Of course this requires trust that the partner who cheated is not going to use that their alone time to visit with their affair partner. If this is still a concern then spending time together may not be a good idea and you should reconsider whether spending any time together during the holiday season is a good idea.

David offers advise and hope in this episode or The Anatomy of An Affair. For more on David, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com . Make the best of your holidays. We wish you the best. For more programs on divorce and life after divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com .

Your Divorce Settlement has been negotiated and agreed upon. Now it is time to step off the divorce battlefield take off your ‘coat of armor’ and begin the task of coparenting post divorce. The good news is that much of the ongoing stress and tension around the negotiations quickly melts away which provides you with the opportunity to be fully present in attending to your children’s needs. But old habits die hard...so today we are going to highlight some of the most important Coparenting Do’s and Don’ts.

You and your ex were unable to cohabitate. You have differences that are so extensive that you were unable to mend your marriage. These differences will undoubltedly show up in how you each parent. The task and challenge in every situation is putting your children before your need to be right or better. Today’s show intended to help you set yourself on the right path.

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As we continue our post divorce series, today is all about you guys! As you enter your new life chapter, we will guide you on how to refresh and reinvent yourself through style and image. Today’s guest will share tips on how to become your most authentic, magnetic and powerful self. Grab a pen and begin to explore how to hone in on the deeper blocks keeping you from attracting your dream woman!

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Your new life chapter provides an opportunity to reinvent yourself from the inside out. You have stepped off the ‘battlefield of divorce’ and now is your time! A time to refresh, renew and decide how you want to present yourself to the world. It helps to understand what looks best on your body type and how to go through your closet to get rid of those items that don’t make you feel good about yourself. We look at the new you and how to dress to feel confident, empowered and sexy.

Today’s guest is Diane Pollack is a fashion aficionado with over 20 years in the fashion industry and founder of Stylempower. Diane educates women to create outfits that make them feel empowered and that enable them to radiate confidence. Listen in as Diane walks us through her client process and shares fun and effective tips for sorting through your wardrobe and creating a look that fits the new you!

Once your divorce is final, you are so relieved for it to finally be over, that it is easy to miss the crucial steps that can only be taken after your divorce is final. This vital step allows you to secure and protect what you received in the settlement and sets you up for financial stability post divorce.

In today’s show Aviva Pinto helps review everything from closing accounts shared with your ex to retitling your policies, investments and accounts to changing your beneficiaries, drafting a new Will and taking care of your estate planning. Regardless of the amount of money you are working with, the advice and guidance from today’s guest will enable you to launch into your post divorce life with a sense of financial security and peace of mind.

Bronfman E.L. Rothschild, LP is a registered investment advisor (dba Bronfman Rothschild, Bronfman Rothschild Wealth Advisors, and Bronfman Rothschild Plan Advisors). Securities, when offered, are offered through an affiliate, Bronfman E.L. Rothschild Capital, LLC (dba BELR Capital, LLC), member FINRA/SIPC.

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The business of sorting through years of stuff when divorcing can be overwhelming. The bigger your home, the more space you have to stuff stuff! Now it’s time to purge...but you get stuck in every box, free falling down memory lane and getting little accomplished.

Today’s guest, professional organizer, Sarah Grace has a new and invigorating way of looking at your stuff. She helps you to tap into the emotions embodied in your belongings and guides you to let go of that which does not serve your new life and to honor those items that are special to you.

She further explains the importance of a support network, the value of systems and the necessity of storage spaces when it comes to paperwork, bills and necessary but seldom used items etc. You will emerge from today’s show with a revitalized plan to sort through your stuff and reclaim your space!

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The conversation and decision around what to do with the marital home can be an emotional minefield. For many, your home is your largest financial investment and the foundation of stability in our lives, it is a hot trigger for most divorcing couples Today’s guest, Divorce Real Estate Specialist, Kathy Broddock takes us through her process for assisting you in determining what RE professional to work with which is a vital first step.

Kathy helps you determine if you can stay or must sell, what you can you afford and if renting or buying is a better choice. Together we explore how you can best decide where to live, and the importance of ensuring that you get something special, that you never had before, in your new home. Kathy’s expertise and approach is a beacon as you begin to entertain housing options for the next chapter of your life.

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Join Steve in a special conversation with Los Angeles based Casting Producer, Lindsay Spaulding, as they discuss an exciting casting opportunity for Season 2 of HGTV's Unspouse My House .

This Home Renovation show, hosted by Orlando Soria, is searching for Los Angeles Homeowners who are looking to refresh their living space post-breakup. Lindsay and the casting team are seeking newly single/divorced (within 10 years) Los Angeles homeowners who are ready to renovate the home they once shared with their ex. If you live in Los Angeles, own your home, and are ready to clear out the emotional baggage and lingering memories of your ex, then this is the show for you!

For more info or to apply, please email: lindsaycasting@gmail.com or unspoused@wyldsidemedia.com (put ATTN: Lindsay in the subject of email)

Today’s show acknowledges the tender emotions you experience while negotiating custody. We encourage you to notice the nightmare stories that create fear and tension, derailing your negotiations. Our guest, Josh Hecht, shares strategies to cut through the acrimony, negotiate for both the current and the long term needs of your children, and insure that you consider the nitty gritty details to guarantee a rock solid agreement.

This is one of the most stressful aspects of your divorce negotiation, listen in, take notes and make sure your attorney understands that the emotional health of your children is your #1 priority.

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If you are in a bicultural marriage and are facing divorce this show is for you! As if divorce is not overwhelming enough, those facing ‘international divorce’ complexities encounter an entirely unique and complex set of challenges which are even further intensified if there are children involved.

Join us as we speak to matrimonial attorneys Nicole Centracchio and Brian Reed who specialize in international divorce. They share valuable tips on how and when to make the decision to file for divorce, the importance of choosing jurisdiction and how to protect your children’s ability to have access to both parents. They discuss the importance of understanding and navigating differing value systems including cultural, religious, schooling and child rearing. Get your pen ready, it will be like sipping from a fire hose!

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The 10th episode of Being Single is over 2-hours of all things sex with a few other topics thrown in for good measure.

Join Steve & Toni for their weekly coffee talk with special guest Dr. Edward Lichten . Dr. Lichten is a gynecologist and anti-aging medicine specialist and no leaf is left unturned in this conversation.

From Menopause and vaginal dryness to condoms, orgasms, what women really want and girl's boy toys, this show has it all. And as with all Being Single shows, the conversation is tongue-in-cheek and a lot of fun.

We realize you're probably not going to listen for over 2-hours at one time but that's what the pause button is for. This is your weekly Toni and Steve fix. Enjoy!

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The wide array of logistical details and emotional tensions surrounding co parenting post divorce can be a minefield for unnecessary conflict. It’s hard enough to parent while living under the same roof due to all the details of our children’s busy lives.

When parenting under separate roofs, managing all the details of your shared parenting schedule, tracking extracurricular activities along with who's picking up and dropping off, plus tracking expenses, who’s paid and who owes and needing a plethora of medical, educational and social information and contact numbers can send a co parents into a tailspin of blame and accusation.

There is a great solution available via modern technology. Today we are introducing you to a platform called Our Family Wizard which buffers reactions and streamlines communication enabling you to co parent with greater ease. Tune in as we speak to CEO of Our Family Wizard, Jai Kasoon.

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Raising special needs children has a unique set of gifts and challenges. When negotiating divorce, it is essential that you can advocate for the support they will continue to need. Guest, Randi Karmel specializes in this area and discusses the pitfalls inherent and possibilities available through the negotiation process.

Randi shares negotiation danger signs to be aware of as well as resources, organizations and advocates ready to assist you, financial support available for schooling and what you need to do to receive it. This is a must listen show for anyone entering divorce with special needs children.

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In today’s show we discuss how to choose the best legal approach with your children’s mental and emotional health front and center. Children can experience significant emotional damage as a result of divorce, but they don’t have to.

While it is understandable that you want to fight for your fair share of time with the kids, we want you to understand the risks that accompany a legal fight wherein children are dragged through the court process and strangers make parenting decisions for you. Our guest, Larry Sarezsky, discusses the choices available and the impact of those decision when fighting for custody during the legal process. We cover both a standard divorce as well as the challenges in a high conflict scenario.

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In the first episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses dating and sex post divorce.

Dating and sex after divorce can be a challenge. Pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays, not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups, is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. Why is it so hard?

The post-divorce period can also be a time of new sexual discoveries and these sexual experiences can be absolutely fabulous-and very different from what you were used to, especially as your marriage deteriorated. Susan helps us prepare for the next chapter of our new life in this program.

Topics in the program include:
When is it the right time to begin dating after divorce? How to find a date Representing yourself honestly during the dating process Pitfalls of dating to watch out for New sexual relationships Being upfront regarding a STD And much more.

In this podcast of BEYOND INFIDELITY, David Feder introduces us to what he believes is a critical phase of his recovery program. David calls this phase of treatment, PRE-RECOVERY and he states that “it is one of the most important predictors of treatment outcome.”

David continues that “if the participating partner completes the pre-recovery phase successfully, the potential for a successful treatment outcome goes up considerably. However, the opposite is also true because if the tasks in this phase are not completed well, the potential for a successful treatment outcome drops considerably.

You won’t want to miss this podcast as it can predict the future of your relationship.

In this episode of The Smart Divorce, our guest is Boyd Lem on, a retired lawyer, who reinvented himself as a writer, discusses his memoir Digging Deep: A Writer Uncovers His Marriages. This memoir is written with brutal honesty about the process of coming to understand himself and the failure of his marriages. Boyd’s coming of age as a highly paid lawyer provides insight into the Mad Man like excesses of the seventies.

Topics in this program include:
Mistakes and lessons learned from each marriage and three divorces How the children were affected by each divorce Sex, drink and rock n’ roll – the impact on marriage and divorce The importance of introspection Exploring the relationships of ex wives

Toni and Steve are back in Being Single V 2.1, discussing everything from what's the best pizza, to who's the worst partner.

If you've ever been in a relationship with an addict, you need to hear this episode.

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Today's show focuses on your children and how you can parent through divorce in a way that protects them from the animosity between you and your spouse and honors their rights. We talk with Dr. Mark Banschick, a child psychiatrist who share the negative impact and long term affects children experience when parents do not protect them from the hostility.

Dr. Banschick discusses why we tend to act out and react without filters in front of our children and how hard this season is for mom's and dad's to navigate consciously. After explaining why it makes sense, he offers specific strategies for curbing destructive conversations with your kids. Dr. Banschick provides us with a Child's Bill of Rights to guide us. Tune in and you will also receive his free eBook which includes the bill of rights and other tips and strategies. If you have kids, you do not want to miss this show!

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings. The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills.

Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose the opportunity to actually communicate effectively. He shares a tool he has created to help couples stay on topic, solution oriented and effective in traversing difficult and triggering topics. Dr. Dan also offers listeners a free eBook that outlines his communication tool, so make sure to tune in!

For more information visit Journey Beyond Divorce .

Steve and Toni discuss how attachment styles affect your relationships, and how trauma has affected your relationships.

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Strange Dating Sites National Dating and Taco Day Whats It's Like To Be In Therapy For a Man Why Being Alone Is So Important to Being Happy With Future Relationships
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In the early stages of divorce we experience a powerful emotional sting. Coming to terms with the fact that divorce IS part of your reality often happens when you begin to tell others about it. Today we discuss telling your spouse, children, family, friends and others. We look at the fears and resistance that arises and the questions that you want to ask yourself prior to telling.

Being clear on what you want to say and who you are ready to tell and what your boundaries are around discussing this tender topic will enable you to take this step with greater ease. Everyone will have their own emotional reaction. Preparing for that as well is key to managing your own needs and peace. Throughout the process, being aware, making conscious decisions and setting an intention for how you want your divorce to unfold will enable you to feel empowered, stay calm and negotiate effectively. Tune in today!

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Deirdre Dyment is an interior designer who believes in designing an overall experience at home that leaves you spiritually energized and equipped to live your life passionately. Deirdre knows all too well, there’s much more involved in leaving the matrimonial home than packing a suitcase and signing a lease. When she separated from her husband in 2007, she, unusually, helped him get set up in his new place, from stripping the floors and painting the walls to measuring and ordering furniture. They also got their two kids involved in creating their bedrooms.

The experience has since motivated Dyment to launch a novel service – post-divorce decorating – that assists in feathering the nests of newly single men in particular, whether it’s coordinating their renovations or sourcing and installing art to enliven their empty walls.

Topics in this program include:

• What are the different things can be done to make transition easier and less disruptive for children
• The emotional strain of leaving the family home; where to live, how much to spend and do you rent or purchase.
• Creating an environment that will inspire and get the individual that has moved excited about the next chapter of their life.
• Creating a space that reflects your personality and happiness.

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Create your Future NOW - Divorce offers you the Chance to Create the Life You Want and Deserve!

Although it might be hard to see if now, your divorce has many hidden gifts in the form of life lessons and deep wisdom that will evolve you as a human being and allow you to move forward into a new and vibrant life.

Create the Vision of a New Life and Your Future

To create a new way of being, you must have a clear vision of who you are becoming and the life you choose to live. Identifying what matters to you now and what your passions are is the starting point. Visualizing that Future Self and your New Life allows us to work backwards from that vision, so that we can begin taking action steps today towards your goal.

In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Shelley Stile helps you create a vision of your future self. Shelley discusses how to find what truly has meaning for you and what you are passionate about. Once you are clear about your priorities, you are then free to create a vision of your future; a future that you know will give you the gifts of a life well lived.

Creating a new life concentrates on the positive act of creating, not the negative act of problem solving. Problems, or challenges, will always arise in any journey but it is how we handle these challenges that will be the mark of our character. The real work is in the act of creation. Begin creating your new life and future today with the help of Shelley Stile.

Your finances are certain to change during and after divorce and therefore raise fear in just about everyone facing this transition. Today we speak with Elizabeth Polizzi, a financial expert who specializes in strategizing around the finances of divorce. She discusses how vital it is to be informed and educated in order to negotiate the best possible settlement.

In this straightforward talk, Elizabeth elaborates on the 5 Keys to preparing financially for your divorce. She invites you to examine in great detail what you have, what you owe, what you need and what you want and offers valuable tips and the best way to negotiate your settlement.

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com .

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse.

Today we talk with Bill Laufer, a 40 year veteran attorney in the matrimonial law arena whose firm specializes in family law and handles all 4 legal approaches: litigation, arbitration, mediation and collaboration. Listen as Bill walks us through the pro’s and con’s of each and how to make the best choice given the personalities and circumstances you are facing.

For more on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Are you being alienated from your children? Do you understand what Parental Alienation is and what do you do if you find yourself the targeted parent and your children torn from our life.

Our show titled is named after the book A Family's Heartbreak - A parent's guide to parental alienation, and today I'm going to speak with the author, Michael Jeffries , to help families better understand Parental Alienation, and it affects.

The definition of parental alienation is heartbreakingly simple—one parent deliberately damages, and in some cases destroys, the previously healthy, loving relationship between the child and the child’s other parent.

Parental Alienation is harmful to our children's well being. I believe we can stop this destructive behavior if we can just recognize the warning signs and make a choice to not act this way. Get counseling to help work through issues of accepting your current situation and learn to move on to a healthier future. For more programs, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com

Collaborative divorce is the newest ‘kid on the block’ when it comes to divorce. It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust. Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not. We also explore the emotional, legal and financial benefits of divorcing outside the court system.

For more on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to ‘litigate’ in order to legally divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process. Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce. Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support. We also explore how to hire a litigating attorney that is a good fit for you.

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com .

In this episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile we discuss the need to change the perspective of your situation which in return caan help alter your attitude in a positive manner.

Fear of our future after divorce keeps us stuck in the pain of the past. This fear prompts our mind chatter to paint a bleak picture of an uncertain future, which in turn creates a disempowering and negative attitude towards life. A negative attitude on life becomes all pervasive and leaves us powerless and depressed. If we stop and think about it, the future is totally unpredictable and unknowable. We simply cannot know what the future holds. Thus it is our perspective about the future that will lay the foundation for what is coming around the bend.

If we want our future to look a certain way then we need to take charge. Uncertainty is always part of the process of taking charge and moving on. Courage to me is living with uncertainty. Our perspective or attitude on life not only changes the way we think but also changes our reality. Our attitudes do shape our future and the attainment of our goals and in this program, Shelley shows you how to make a positive change in the way you see yourself and your future.

Award winning writer/producer Arlene Sarner has written for every major movie studio including. Arlene is a talented and engaging writer who shares her story about forgiveness, personal transformation and moving on. Arlene shares her very powerful story of turning years of acrimony and hostility towards her ex husband, into a now peaceful and civil relationship and says” So don't lose hope--even the most rancorous relationships with exes can eventually shift into civility” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arlene-sarner/an-ex-passover-guest_b_852318.html?ref=tw

Topics in this program include:

• The Lunch with the ex and how it changed everything
• Forgiveness, the power to forgive and letting go
• How letting go of anger changed a family

Understanding the Divorce Landscape takes a big picture look at what you are facing as you enter the world of divorce. We share tips that support you to effectively take control of your part of the divorce process, the one part of the process that you have direct control over. You will hear what to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence.

This show and those that follow it are designed to dovetail with our 12 Step Divorce Recovery Podcast series by helping you understand the general territory of divorce, discern what aspects of it apply to your particular situation, and prepare for the many stages and phases so you will be able to effectively negotiate the bumps and bends ahead with grace and dignity.

For more on Journey Beyond Divorce, visit: JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Toni and Steve are back, and this time, looking into relationship attachment styles, and what creates them. (Childhood Trauma) To learn more about attachment styles, visit: https://youtu.be/d8yhFBqipk0

The dynamic duo also chat about:
How breakups become easier over time Over protecting your kids YouTube stars and social media Guy drives his car into a Chicago mall, while Toni's Daughter there shopping with friends!
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One of the most common questions newly divorcing people have for me is, "how long will it take before I'm over this divorce ordeal?"

How long it takes to "recover" from a divorce depends on a number of factors, including how long you were together, how good the relationship was and how committed you were to your spouse, whether the divorce was a surprise to you or not, whether you have children together, whether you or your spouse are involved in a new relationship, your personality, your age, your socio-economic status and on and on.

In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done* when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down.

In this episode of Beyond Divorce , Susan Pease Gadoua discusses this topic and includes the top ten list of Don'ts for divorce recovery and much more.

(Listener Note: This is Episode #12 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.)

Step 12 is the final and most exciting Step as we explore the unlimited possibility life offers when we intentionally create each step of our journey with a willingness and desire to engage fully - utilizing all our gifts, talents, skills and passion.

With each completed effort we joyfully surrender the outcome, having faith that whatever it is, it is the perfect and only next step for us. Upon that outcome being either in-line with our desired goal or different, we assess, integrate what we have learned, recalibrate our plans and re-engage.

This is the practice of SESI. SET your intention, ENGAGE 100%, SURRENDER the outcome, INTEGRATE your experience and lessons and begin again. We expect the unexpected. We are comfortable with change. We embrace all learning opportunities. We are fully alive, fully engaged and fully responsible. No worries. No regrets. Only the present moment and the belief in ourselves and in unlimited possibility.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Recovery Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com .

Check out our Next Series: Navigating Divorce - The Logistics with Journey Beyond Divorce!

Our guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (http://www.affairs-help.com/ ); works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. An extramarital affair is one of the most painful experiences that couples face, and one of the greatest challenges for helping professionals. Whether you are seeking assistance in your personal life or you are professional seeking information to better help clients, this is the show that provides the wisdom and guidance so many need. Emily is the author of Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, and Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity, and numerous articles on affairs.

Topics in this program include:
An in-depth look at the 6 different Affairs How to rescue a marriage if there has been an Affair Affair recovery: the process and insight Debunking the myths and misconceptions about Affairs Rebuilding trust How to talk to your children about the Affair

Our program deals with Toxic Post Divorce Relationships.

In this program, psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg discusses how to deal with an unreasonable and angry ex. For some couples, divorce means the end of a relationship and they learn to move on with their lives in a healthy way for themselves and their children.

Then there's the group we're going to talk about today where for one or both partners of a divorce, the relationship and past problems continue and in some cases become even more toxic then when they were married. The sad part of this is for those with children. Children have had enough to deal with through the divorce process and if even one of the divorced partners chooses to continue the fight, it's their kids that are forced to pay the price.

Either you or your partner had an affair and you’ve made the decision to stay together. Yes, you can stay together and settle for a relationship that is OK, or with the help of David Feder who is an expert in treating infidelity, you can survive infidelity, rebuild your relationship and thrive.

In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY David Feder begins a 2-part review of some of what he coins, the common “recovery hurdles” that can interfere with the process of rebuilding your relationship after an affair.

Tune in to learn about what you should avoid so that you and your spouse can rebuild and have an extraordinary relationship. It begins here.

For more information about David Feder, go to closeconnections.ca , or you can speak with him by calling 416-315-5107.

Step 11 challenges you to utilize all you have learned in the previous ten steps to design and move towards your ideal post divorce life now, regardless of if you are pre, in the midst of, or post divorce. Put it together to create a more encompassing perspective and begin to experience life as an unpredictable adventure that you have the power to influence profoundly. By assuming full responsibility for your life, you can engage with a creative freedom and use your power to direct yourself towards the life you desire.

Receive a powerful navigation tool, the MIFR , which is both a broom and a life compass. It allows you to sweep your mind clean of old ways of reacting using Mindfulness to analyze any reaction before you take action. Using Inquiry to correct your course of action through Focus, and finally navigate to destinations of your choosing by Reframing your perspective.

The MIFR allows you to take action in ways supportive of your goals, sweeping away perspectives and actions that have undermined your success in the past.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

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In episode #3 of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses Not Missing the Lessons from Past Relationships & How to Not Make the Same Mistakes - Regardless of what went wrong in the marriage or past relationships, YOU were part of the equation.

The "stories" we have about what went wrong in past relationships are revealing as to where our unhealed wounds reside. If you don't work on healing them, they will show up in the next relationship too!

This program will help you better understand and identify patterns that may not have served you in past relationships and suggests how to do your inner work so that you can avoid these behaviors from resurfacing again in future relationships.
Learn the three reasons why people are attracted to each other and stay together Learn the three dynamics at work in steering the relation-ship Learn the three steps in breaking unhealthy relationship dynamics Learn better communication skills and how not to shut your partner out And much more

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If you find yourself stuck in a state of blaming your ex for most of the problems in your relationship, this program will help you understand how to take responsibility for your part of what went wrong in your relationship thus allowing you to take back control of your life.

Once you have moved into acceptance of your life, you can concentrate on moving on after divorce. Moving on means connecting with what is now important to you. Moving on means discovering what you truly want from life, what makes you come alive and brings you joy.

This episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile will help you become empowered, confident and enthusiastic to move on. You will learn to take full responsibility and control of your life and transform it into something wonderful and new.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D. , we discuss needy and clingy personality types . Have you been with this type of person or was it you that displayed these traits?

Neediness Pushes People Away: When the relationship is no longer in the “whirlwind romantic” stage, you may feel the need to cling too much in order to maintain what you had. “What’s wrong?” “I feel like you are not there.” Anxiety occurs because you sense a change, but you may be responding to something completely normal. It’s a burden to have to deal with a clingy lover. “Everything is fine.” Will you just stop it?” The irony is that as you push your concerns forward, you partner may just decide it is too much to deal with.

And if you're the clingy person and you are involved with a narcissist, this can turn explosive. There is no shame to admit that you are too clingy. And there are usually good reasons why you became that way; like anxieties in early childhood. Good relationships are worth a lot, so if you’ve got a tendency to be too needy, do something about it. Work on overcoming the wounds of the past, and make better relationships in the future.

While it’s fine to test the temperature of a relationship, be aware that your neediness may undermine a stable bond between you and your partner. And, if you are that partner, you may want to listen to this show and have some empathy. There’s a lot that can be done to keep your love fresh, with the help of counseling.

For more on Dr. Mark Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.

Our guest, William A. (“Bill”) E ddy is an attorney, therapist and mediator, and the President of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, Arizona. (http://www.highconflictinstitute.com/ ). Bill helps us understand what personality disorder is and how to get along with someone who is narcissistic, has a border line personality disorder, or is a persistent blamer. They aren’t just difficult people, they're the most difficult people. They file lawsuits, file complaints against professional licenses, gather negative advocates to support their position, cost employers lots of time & money, disrupt & distract, find a target of blame, and convince everyone that its never their fault!

Topics in this program include:
What is a personality disorder Understanding the High Conflict Personality Pattern Dealing with the personality disordered spouse Understanding the damage of parent alienation Managing through the legal process with a personality disordered spouse How personality disorder drives family court litigation And, so much more………

(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Step 10 discusses trust and tuning inward to access one of the greatest resources we have - our own inner, intuitive guidance and wisdom. There are people in our lives that we turn to for guidance and wisdom when we are faced with uncertainty and important decisions. This is very valuable. AND there are so many times when we hear another’s advice and know it’s just not right for us. There’s no one who knows more about you, your situation, your values, your strengths and vulnerabilities than YOU.

Wouldn’t it be great to know that you have inside you all the resources and wisdom you need to come up with the best course of action to take in any situation? The key lies in accessing more of your discernment process than the logical mind or gathering more and more data points.

Join us as we consider our intuition, what it is, how it shows up, what gets in the way of our accepting it as an important part of our thinking and decision making process, what is possible when we pay attention to it, and the consequences of ignoring the intuitive messages we receive. There is a lot of literature written about how to distinguish the voice of your inner guidance or intuition from the voice of fear, contraction, or your inner critic.

Learn ways you can distinguish the source of that voice in your head saying “Yes, let’s do it!”...or “NO!!” Discover steps for cultivating your intuition so that it becomes a strength that you can learn to trust and rely upon.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: wwwjbddivorcesupport.com .

Narcissism used to be recognized as a mental disorder, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DMS, Manual. In the revised DMS-Five edition, narcissism will no longer be considered a mental disorder , prompting the question, "If my ex isn't a certifiable narcissist, is he/she just an asshole?" Are these labels one and the same?

Dr. Banschick breaks it down for us and explains narcissism as we once knew it . He then explains how one may not be a narcissist, but rather, a selfish, self-centered asshole. If you think you have been dealing with this type of person, this is a show for you.

For more information on Dr. Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com .

In this episode, we discuss divorce from a man's point of view and our guest is David Pisarra , Esq., the founder and president of the Santa Monica, CA-based law office Pisarra and Grist as well as Men’s Family Law and www.MensFamilyLaw.com established specifically for men to receive expert legal representation in divorce and custody proceedings while providing support programs and counseling designed to address their particular needs.

Topics in the program include:
4-Steps to protect yourself during your divorce Domestic violence accusations How to improve your chance of receiving equal custody of your children Dealing with anger and moving on with your life And much more.

Divorce is a stressful and unsettling situation. At minimum, a major relationship is ending, all sorts of your normal routines are upset, and along with the stress of transition are the legal hoops we have to jump through before things can be resolved. There are also volatile emotions that are frequently associated with divorce. Add all of these this together - and you have a difficult situation to deal with.

In today's program we feature issues that women face during a divorce and our guest is Dennis Zamplas , founder of The Law Firm of Victoria , dedicated to representing women only in divorce and other family law matters.

Topics in the program include:

Do men have an advantage over women in divorce

Does it matter who files for divorce first?

Can the wife move out of the house with her kids before the divorce is final?

Is it possible to have the husband ordered out of the home?

If the husband has existing debt, will that debt be shared with the wife after divorce

Child custody and parenting time

Spousal and child Support

What to do if your husband has had an affair

And much more

(Listener Note: This is Step #9 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

It is normal to feel hurt, anger, blame and resentment while going through divorce. It is a devastating and traumatic transition, one that we all resist and that no one escapes without experiencing these painful feelings at some point in the process. Karen McMahon and Karen Basmagy discuss the pitfalls of living in resistance and the benefits of learning to accept what is.

When we feel stuck and overwhelmed, it is a red flag that we are resisting what is happening to our lives.

It sounds something like, “This isn’t happening!”, “I can’t believe s/he is doing this!”, “It wasn’t supposed to be this way!”, “This is all my/his/her fault”. When we are in resistance, we remain stuck in blame and disbelief and unable to move forward. We unable to see our part in our dissolving marriage and unwilling to consider the possibility in life after divorce. Resistance adds more stress and tension into an already difficult situation.

The key to stepping into the possibility that your future holds is to learn to accept: accept the choices you made, accept the way your spouse behaves, accept that you marriage is dissolving and the divorce is happening.

By resisting, nothing changes except that it is harder and more stressful. By accepting, we begin to move through the hard time. Acceptance opens up choices and we can see more possibility with each decision we make. Acceptance enables us to channel our energy into what we do have control over. Listen in and follow the suggested action steps to help you move through your divorce.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.Jbddivorcesupport.com .

Is it possible to remain happy as you face one of the most challenging times in your life?

Our guest, Susan Pease Gadoua is the founder and Executive Director of the Transition Institute of Marin , specializing in meeting the needs of separating and divorcing men and women. We explore the importance of understanding your own needs, how to find your happiness, and the meaning of loving yourself. It’s an enlightening and engaging conversation, tune in to learn how to find the power of happiness.

Topics in this program include:
The meaning of happiness What it means to love yourself, to be open to loving and healthy relationships Preparing yourself emotionally for a great relationship Why people get stuck in relationship traps – and being with the same personality type Avoiding the relationship trap mistakes and downfalls The risk of a rebound relationship

Tug of War

A Judge’s Verdict on Separation, Custody Battles, and the Bitter Realities of Family Court

There are many myths and misconceptions about what goes on in a Court Room. When it comes to justice, all too often couples are disappointed by the outcome – and end up with large legal bills, family drama which causes an all out war, and a resolution that leaves couples disillusioned. Our guest, Justice Harvey Brownstone , a sitting court judge, best-selling author, and host of Family Matters TV ( http://www.familymatterstv.com/ ); helps us understand what really goes on inside the court room, and a judge’s mind. Justice Brownstone has been called a maverick judge who is a pioneer that is unilaterally changing the public image of the judiciary. This honest and thought provoking interview will change the way you think about litigation, and how you work through the divorce process. We are fortunate to have Justice Brownstone share his thoughts and enlighten listeners as to what really goes on in Court, and what really matters.

Topics in this program include:

· The impact of litigation on the family

· What is really in your children’s best interest

· The importance of a legal consultation

· A frank discussion about divorce, relationships and so much more

(Listener Note: This is Step #8 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Divorce is a time of upheaval and chaos. Life as you’ve known it is changing daily in ways small and large. You are responsible for many to do’s to manage the change. Exactly where all this change is leading is unknowable yet your mind is in overload attempting to predict your future or figure out the past. In Step 8 we discuss the importance of leading your head to where your feet are or, bringing yourself to and staying present in the moment.

It is an ingrained habit of mind to time travel to attempt to figure out the unknowable. When we get lost in reflections of the past or fears projected onto our futures we waste the present by disabling our ability to be effective in the one place that is real and where we have power, right here and right now.

Staying present in the moment eliminates the feelings of powerlessness that so many individuals experience during divorce. Easily accessible tools and effective practices are available to bring you back to, and keep you in present moment awareness. In this present moment that you are powerful to choose and take considered and strategic actions to navigate wisely and well through your divorce as well as the rest of your life.

Understand how you are intensifying that pain, how to begin minimizing it, and how to use present moment awareness to make your journey through divorce and beyond as easy and pleasurable as possible.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

Positive. Life-enhancing. Enlightening. Compassionate. These words are seldom associated with divorce. Words that typically come to mind are: Painful. Agonizing. Resentful. Bitter. Our guest, domestic relations judge and best-selling author Judge Michele Lowrance enlightens listeners how people can attain a positive outlook, achieve forgiveness, and move on with a mended soul (http://thegoodkarmadivorce.com/). Judge Lowrance has learned that there's a better way to handle divorce. So she came up with a plan to turn the negatives of divorce into positives. She explains the program in her book, The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life.

Topics in this program include:
On court: An understanding what the court system can and cannot do – it can’t rescue you, but perhaps it can encourage forgiveness. On children: Ordinary parenting is not enough; parents need to adopt wisdom building skills for heroic parenting. Justice Lowrance asks: "What is more important for you to be right, or for your children to be happy?" On forgiveness: In the beginning, you won't be ready to forgive. At this stage it is fine to let your emotions steep and give them room to breathe. Treat them like a flu that has to run its course. There is a necessary gestation period between anger and forgiveness. Creating your soul searching party: developing your Personal Manifesto The crucial things you have to know about having the “divorce conversation” with your soon to be former partner.

We are discussing the tender topic of discovering infidelity today and with us is C.J. Grace, author of “The Adulterer’s Wife: How to thrive whether you stay or not.” During today's show we’ll support you to look at three aspects of confronting infidelity so you will understand how to give yourself the space to get clear before taking action about staying, leaving, or kicking your spouse out. We will also share tools to help you heal from the hurt and design your path forward so that regardless of your eventual choice, you’ll emerge more confident and clear in yourself and capable of creating a future of your design

C.J. shares a few of the gems in her book which is a perfect resource to “tease apart the emotional knots you're experiencing, step back to view your situation with some distance, and understand the what and why of your options - she provides all with the perfect amount of irreverent humor and wisdom.”

For more information on Karen McMahon and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Today, many couples choose to live together without being married and have a child together. The question becomes, what happens if you split up? Will you have to pay spousal and child support as if you were a married couple?

Attorney, Henry Gornbein helps sort through the legal questions in what used to be referred to as a "common law" marriage and guide you through the process.

For more information on Henry, visit: https://www.lippittokeefe.com

For more information on Henry's Gracefully Greying TV show, visit: https://www.nrmstreamcast.com/lifestyles-page/gracefully-greying/

For comments and questions, feel free to write Divorce Source Radio at: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com.

(Listener Note: This is Step #7 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Everyone divorcing has a particular version or story of what happened to their marriage and why. This story is usually from a singular personal perspective, yours. Your spouse has another story, also singular and personal. Unless your spouse is truly delusional, both stories have a basis in truth yet neither encompasses a whole truth.

In Step 7 Karen and Lisa explore the concept of “story” as differentiated from “what actually happened”. They provide practices and skills that allow you to become aware of your story as only one of a number of versions so you can begin to own your part in the unfolding and unraveling of your marriage with compassion and understanding.

As you begin to question your story and look at other ways of interpreting the personalities and events involved, there is a freedom to recognize your role in what happened. By stepping out of your story and beginning to own your role you open up the possibility of learning and growing through understanding rather than being frozen in place by judgement.

Explore ways to detach from your story, free yourself from being a victim of circumstances, recognize and change behaviors that have not been working for you, find acceptance and forgiveness for both yourself and your imperfect companion, and enjoy a broader range of choices and options that lay hidden behind your story. Simply, you will meet the perspectives and tools that will allow you to grow and heal through your pain.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

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In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Divorce/Life Coach, Shelley Stile teaches us how not to distort the reality of our situation.

When we are living our lives in a state of true awareness wherein we are truly conscious of our actions, we can free ourselves from reactive, self defeating behavior and realize our personal best. Unfortunately, although we may think that we make conscious decisions; in reality our unconscious mind impacts our behavior. Our actions are therefore not truly under our control. We can learn to recognize the unconscious, that part of our mind that has great power over much of our actions without us even being aware of its existence. In doing so, we can diminish its power over us.

When we live on a conscious level, we are as alert to what is happening as a deer in the woods who hears something unknown. We insure that our actions, our decisions, our communications are not influenced by the myriad filters we apply to life. We don’t look through rose colored or black glasses; we choose to look through crystal clear ones that do not distort reality.

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In this episode of Beyond Infidelity we welcome Dan, a man who survived his former wife’s affair and today lives a life that he describes as “extremely satisfying and full of adventure”.

In this podcast Dan bravely shares his recovery story, highlighting the things he did that he found helpful as well as what to avoid. All this in hopes that you may benefit from Dan’s journey and as a result experience less pain and recover more quickly.

For more on David Feder, visit: wwwCloseConnections.ca

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Prior to the internet with its chat rooms and pornography, social media websites, such as Facebook, and cell phones with text messaging, proving a partner's infidelity or financial indiscretions was a difficult task.

Today, it's quite common during a divorce to subpoena the contents of a spouse's computer, cell phone records and text messages. You've probably heard of politicians and celebrities being brought down, in part, by what was discovered in their email, text messages or internet browsing history.

In today's program, family law attorney, Henry Gornbein, and I discuss the fall-out of today's technology and address how the discovery of this information can affect a marriage and, ultimately, a divorce.

We'll take a look at this from a legal perspective pertaining to your right to privacy, and we'll provide strong advice regarding the use of this new communications medium during a divorce.

For more free programs on divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com

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Divorce is never easy, and divorcing with children of any age makes it that much more difficult.

Most information on divorce where children are involved is directed to families with younger children. This program takes a look at the challenges of divorcing when your children are in their teens and twenties.

Psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg is our guest and provides helpful insight for parents going through divorce with older children.

Topics Include:

How Custody Issues Change as Kids Grow Older, Dealing with Your Kids' Anger and Resentment, Co-Parenting, Understanding How your Kids are Feeling, Why Communicating with Your Ex is Critical, and more.

For more Free programs, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com

(Listener Note: This is Step #6 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce. With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp.

It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce. We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror. Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape.

Explore a new practice of Curiosity. Consider what might happen if you didn’t firmly believe you knew everything… the why and how, and the motivation or thought behind every action.

While our judgement keeps us stuck in old thought patterns that add to our suffering, curiosity opens the possibility for new learning, growth and healing. Consider how letting go of your judgement of the past enables you to embrace the possibility of the future.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

Forgiveness is a miraculous act that serves as a release valve that propels us forward into a new life after divorce. To forgive is to be truly free, to be unencumbered by the past. The problem or challenge with forgiveness is that it is very difficult and oftentimes near impossible for us to go there, especially if we are leaving an abusive relationship of some sort. How can we forgive really bad behavior? How can we forgive someone who has wronged or betrayed us?

There are two important elements of forgiveness: what it is and what it gives to us. Forgiveness is the ability to let go of blames, resentments, upsets and negative emotions we hold against a particular person. In order to achieve forgiveness, we go through a process that begins by separating the person who we are forgiving from their behavior. We do so because forgiveness does not mean that we condone someone's bad behavior. We don't.

Here is the greatest gift of all: self-forgiveness. By forgiving someone else, you also forgive yourself. You can stop beating yourself up. You can see your own inner child who desperately needs your love and compassion, not your constant judgment and criticism. You can return to state of wholeness. You can have the freedom and power to create your best life possible.

Join Shelley Stile in this episode of Divorce Recovery on Divorce Source Radio and learn how forgiveness can move you towards a healthier and happier new you.

David Feder returns with another episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio to discuss personality disorders and affairs.

Many people suffer some form of personality disorder whether it be Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Disorder, Bipolar, or one of the many other types of mental illnesses that affect an individual's ability to form healthy relationships.

Some of these illnesses can even be the direct cause of a partner straying and becoming unfaithful. David explains how mental illness might play out during an affair and provides advice for the hurt partner dealing with the fallout.

The ability to move on after your divorce entails the letting go of the past with its emotional baggage and negative emotions. If you can accomplish this feat then the heavy burdens you have been carrying will lift and you will experience the liberation of freedom: the ability to move unimpeded towards whatever goal you establish for yourself.

Ask yourself: what is the price I am paying in holding onto what no longer exists? What is the cost of being chained to my negative emotions and perspective? Is it costing me my health? My peace of mind? My relationship with my children? My happiness? My optimism and enthusiasm for life? I assure you that the price you pay is very, very high and it is you alone, not your ex, that pays that price.

How would you feel if you were free of all that negative stuff? Would you feel the world contains new possibilities and opportunities for you? Would you feel light? Would your body and heart stop aching? Would you be able to be happy again? Would you have renewed energy? How would freedom feel for you?

Divorce and Life Coach Shelley Stile explains the importance of acceptance and letting go during this episode of Divorce Recovery. For more information on Shelley Stile, visit her website at www.LifeAfterYourDivorce.com .

Kelly Morrisey has created a connection with people from around the world with her creation of ABetterLifeAfterDivorce.com . (www.aBetterLifeAfterDivorce.com)

Kelly provides international divorce recovery and personal growth strategies, tools and resources and has uplifted and enlightened many of those experiencing the trauma and crisis of divorce.

People from all over the world schedule private tele-sessions with Kelly Morrisey and seek her counsel. She holds tele-seminars revolving around the areas of divorce recovery, personal growth and building a strong loving relationship.

Kelly Morrisey is respected and endorsed by many of the top experts in the personal development and relationship field such as Bob Proctor (The Secret), Tony Robbins, Denis Waitley, Dr. Wayne Dyer and Marianne Williamson.

In this conversation with Kelly we discuss:
Is it possible to have a better life after divorce How to recover from divorce Importance of keeping your kids out of your personal business related to your divorce The effect of divorce on your children regardless of their age Why individuals cheat on their spouse and how to get your needs met at home Loosing trust after discovering an affair How men process divorce differently than women The process of moving on, forgiving and beginning a better life Dating after divorce And Much more...

While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty.

Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next steps. We also share the huge value in staying long enough to work on your shortcoming so that, regardless of your choice, you emerge healthier in all your relationships.

For more on Karen McMahon and Journey Beyond Divorce or to book a private session, visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com .

If you are going through a divorce, chances are you've heard some negative thoughts running through your head. Am I good enough? Was this my Fault? Will I ever find another partner? Many going through a divorce experience these types of thoughts early on during the grief phase and this is quite normal and understandable. But If you can't seem to move beyond these thoughts, it's time to explore them and ask yourself are my feelings and interpretations of my situation really true? More times than not you'll discover these thoughts are not your reality but rather the meaning you have attached to them.

In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Shelley Stile shows us how to sort fact from fiction and helps us to see the truth. By doing this, we empower ourselves to see the reality or our situation and can begin to let go of negative self talk. Divorce is an opportunity for personal growth and Shelley provides us with tips to feel better mentally and physically during this tough time and helps us to discover our true reality.

This podcast begins a series of programs taking a closer look at infidelity. Our guide throughout the series is David Feder, founder of My Life After an Affair.

David has a passion for helping people recover from the trauma of infidelity and his practice is dedicated to accomplishing just that. As David says, “everyone will recover from infidelity....the question is HOW?”

This series will look:
How affairs begin Sexual versus emotional affairs The role sex addiction place in affairs Should you admit to an affair? How to rebuild trust after an affair The recovery process and much more.

Listener note: This is Part 1 of this series, and if you are finding this program through our archive directory, itunes or Stitcher Radio, it is advised you begin with program 1 and follow the podcasts in their original order.

For more on David Feder, visit: http://MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com

(Listener Note: This is Step #5 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

When we are faced with divorce, we go through a grief process. The death of our marriage brings the loss of the hopes and dreams we had as a couple, the loss of our normal family life, friends, community, etc.

Grief is the normal reaction to loss. No two people grieve loss in the same way.

You'll learn that there is no "one size fits all" approach to grief recovery, and yet there are experiences we all share when overcome by grief.

There are a range of emotions - often referred to as the stages of grief - that you might experience with the death of your marriage: Denial, Anger, Ambivalence, Depression, and Acceptance.

Karen and Carrie explore what it means to grieve well and some of the "Rules of Grief" we have learned growing up that need to be consciously examined and set aside in order for you to move into acceptance of your losses.

Learn practices and tools to assist you in taking care of yourself while grieving, including how to appropriately express and release your emotional energy with a sense of safety and permission to do so. The healing can begin with these simple practices and tools.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

Today we take a big picture look at what is entailed when you enter the world of divorce. This series is designed to dovetail our 12 Step Divorce Recovery Podcast series by helping listeners understand the divorce landscape, prepare for the many stages and phases and effectively negotiate the bumps and bends with grace and dignity.

While our 12 Step Recovery Podcast series guides you through the foundational work that is essential to navigating your divorce with greater ease, this series is designed to support you in being prepared and effective as you engage in each stage of your divorce. We discuss everything from the decision, Should I Stay or Go, to the many legal and financial choices and complexities, to processing reactions of spouse, children, friends and in-laws and we continue through to post divorce issues including where to live, how to re-enter the workforce and when and how to begin dating again.

Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com

(Listener Note: This is Step #4 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

During divorce there is no shortage of opportunities to get upset. Whether it is a disagreement with your soon-to-be-ex, dealing with the emotional reactions of loved ones, feeling frustrated with the legal system or being paralyzed by fear and uncertainty, it is common to feel raw, reactionary and disempowered!

Today we discuss noticing how we unknowingly add to our own emotional upset. We highlight where you do have control and encourage you to begin to take back your power. When you follow the practices and engage in the tools that we share, you will begin to experience more calm and confidence regardless of whether or not your external circumstances change.

Today's show invites you to develop a new understanding of the value of acceptance, guides you to stay Solution Oriented and offers a plan for engaging in a manner that brings your closer to what you desire.

Get your FREE Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

(Listener Note: This is Step #3 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

We have all had the experience of obsessing over thoughts during divorce. Whether trying to understand how this happened or worrying about what the future holds or re-running that argument in your mind over and over again. I call it loop thinking when we feel like we are on a mental hamster-wheel or caught in a mental rut.

Today’s we examine the four categories these mental obstacles fall into and how they keep us stuck and cause us to increase the emotional pain we are experiencing. Begin to see how our pain originates with our thoughts and how once we are aware of those that pull us down, we can begin to consciously change the way we think. This powerful concept frees us to choose to respond rather than react and ultimately to communicate with more confidence.

Karen McMahon and Lisa Brick share practices, tools and exercises to help you implement these concepts immediately and see the impact this new awareness will have on how your choose to engage in all your interactions.

Get your FREE Flash Recovery Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

Today on Being Single with Steve Peck and Toni Morales , Yakov Smirnoff joins us to talk about his new comedy show, the Happily After Laughter Tour and explains how laughter can effect relationships in a powerful way .

A mainstay in the entertainment scene since the late 1970's, Smirnoff was a regular guest star on the award winning NBC sitcom, Night Court. He has been a popular guest of numerous national TV shows including the Tonight Show. You've seen him on HBO and enjoyed his humor on his critically acclaimed Showtime special. Yakov has also co-starred in movies with Robin Williams in Moscow on the Hudson, Tom Hanks in The Money Pit, Meryl Streep and Jack Nicholson in Heartburn and Richard Pryor in Brewster's Millions. Yakov was invited to perform at the White House for several presidents and honored guests. President Ronald Reagan called Yakov a "national treasure."

In his newest endeavor, "The Happily Ever Laughter Tour", Smirnoff takes his comedy to a new level to showcase laughter's effects on relationships and envisions a world where sadness and tears are replaced with love and laughter.

Yakov is passionate about helping people extend the honeymoon stage of their relationships and "fall in love and laughter all over again" and you’re going to LOVE this show!

For more information on Toni visit: www.YouRiseAbove.com . For more programs on divorce and life after divorce visit: http://www.DivorceSourceRadio.com . And don’t forget to join our Facebook community at: http://www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.

Feel free to write Toni and Steve at BeingSingleRadio@gmail.com.

(Listener Note: This is Step #2 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Divorce is deeply painful. We may experience different emotions ranging from hurt or anger, shame or disappointment, fear or bitterness. In order to heal as we go through this transition, it is vital that we not judge or avoid our feelings but rather accept that they simply are.

In our quick fix society we see the devastation of avoiding our feelings with pharmaceutical drugs and personal addictions. Emotional pain seems too hard to handle so we stuff it, numb it, work harder, play harder, shop more, binge on Netflix reruns, etc. Yet no matter where we go, or how fast we try to get there, we can't outrun our feelings. Wherever we go, there we are...with our pain.

The only way out is through. Karen and Carrie share gentle, practical, and doable strategies for feeling and processing painful emotions in a way that enables us to move through them and engage in essential conversations and decisions about the future with calm and clarity. Learn the practice of creating space through breath that provides a path back to your center - who you are and want to be in all your interactions.

Get your Free Flash Recovery Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

For all of the divorces files every year, there are at least as many if not more who contemplate getting a divorce.

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Facing such a big decision can be daunting. Feelings of sadness, guilt, fear and anger are normal now, especially if your spouse is unaware of the extent of your unhappiness or you feel unsupported. You are not alone. There are hundreds of thousands of people feeling stuck in matrimonial confusion. No matter how difficult the circumstances you face, there is a solution.

In this program, Susan Pease Gadoua , author of Contemplating Divorce, A Step-byStep Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go , addresses the issues individuals face as they decide to work through their marriage issues or file for divorce.

Topics in the program Include:
Understanding that you are not alone in the process of contemplating divorce How to manage your emotions during this difficult time Gain a better understanding of what your curret relationship is Learn helpful tools for working on your marriage should you choose to stay married How to take action on staying or leaving and learning to be at peace with your decision

There are shows and then there are shows. THIS is one of those shows. If you find yourself single and dating, you know this can be a difficult process.

On this episode of Being Single, Steve and Toni speak with one of the country’s most popular dating coaches, Lisa Shield. (www.LisaShield.com )

Lisa shares how she found her dream man after 100 dates and encourages us to not be afraid of the dating process, dip our toe in the water, and find the love we deserve. This is s “Must Listen To” program for any of our single listeners. And because we don’t have a time limit on shows, this one lasts two hours, but we bet you’ll be using your pause button and be coming back for the entire show.

Show topics include:

What is “Naked Dating? Do men and women and women want the same thing? How we go about getting our needs met? How important is physical attraction? Do men seek sex for different reasons than women? Male vs. female fantasies Has women’s lib changed the landscape of relationships? The importance of visualizing your perfect partner The power of unconditional love How to overcome the fear of dating How to give and take in relationships Knowing your boundaries Why you may be attracting the same type of person you don’t want Do you feel deserving of love? Making the most of your dates Should a new relationship be having problems? Lisa shares how she met the man of her dreams How to not take things our partner says so personally How to support your partner during tough times Encouragement to get out and begin dating How to go about online dating The importance of having a great dating profile The three date rule. Does that really happen? Is it right to be uncompromising and have the "must take me just as I am mentality?" Can you suggest your partner make changes?

For more information on Toni visit: www.YouRiseAbove.com . For more programs on divorce and life after divorce visit: http://www.DivorceSourceRadio.com . And don’t forget to join our Facebook community at: http://www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.

This is the first episode in our twelve-part series from Journey Beyond Divorce with Karen McMahon and Lisa Brick .

The emotional storm of divorce creates chaos and uncertainty and often leaves us struggling to keep our heads above water. Emotions from fear and anger, pain and devastation can sink us on a daily basis.

Today’s show Curb the Conflict of Divorce details two effective strategies that offer you the opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of and control over your emotional reactions. After listening to today’s discussion, you will see the suffering you create by the way you react. You will also receive tangible, immediate action steps that you can take to change your experience.

Karen and Lisa will discuss the power in shifting the focus off our spouse and looking at our part in the turmoil. They will challenge you to notice what triggers you, how your choose to perceive situations and what happens when you step back, slow down and embrace new perspectives and behaviors that are more aligned with what you desire...to move from chaos to calm, clear and confident.

Grab your FREE Flash Recovery Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce, visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com .

In this episode of Divorce recovery with Shelley Stile, we explore Unenforceable Expectations as they relate to divorce and life in general.

Expectations or something we expect to go our way, can lead to resentment and disappointment. Our desire to expect everything to go our way can even be a form of self-sabotage.

As an example of Unenforceable Expectations, have you ever:

· Expected your ex to treat you with kindness and respect?

· Expected your ex to be fair regarding your financial settlement?

· Expected you ex to be a wonderful father or mother to your children?

· Expected the judge and mediator to see things your way?

So why do we expect so much from our ex, family and friends? Is this type of expectation a form of control?

Shelly Stile addresses these questions and explains how to accept the "Nature of Life", you'll have good days and bad. Your Self-imposed impossible expectations are a major source of your inability to let go of the pain of your divorce and move forward. This concept does not just apply to divorce recovery. It applies to all of life.

This program will help you to recognize and deal with any unenforceable expectations you may be having and get you on the path to a healthy mindset .

Have you ever listened to the Negative Mind Chatter that goes on in your head during the course of your divorce? Thoughts like "You aren't good enough", and fearful inner voices chattering "You'll be alone for the rest of your life".

Negative mind chatter can be rooted from our childhood. During extreme stress, such as going through a divorce, our emotions have the ability to resurface with feelings of insecurity or not being "good enough", only now this negative self chatter is amplified.

In this epidsode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile , Divorce Recovery/Life Coach Shelley Stile shows us ways to turn off the negative self talk and train ourselves to focus on building a positive fantastic future.

Contact Info for Shelley Stile: www.LifeAfterYourDivorce.com

(Episode #1, The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch)

Help, I think my marriage is over, now what should I do?

Is divorce always the outcome when there is conflict in the marriage? Of course not, there are options to consider, and help available to put your marriage back on track. This episode explores the role of marriage counseling, and the next steps required if the marriage results in divorce. Once the decision to divorce is made, there are many considerations and issues to ponder. Our guest, psychologist Dr. Robert A. Simon http://dr-simon.com/ provides us with tips and strategies for getting through the early days of separation with your sanity and dignity intact.

Topics in this program include:
The benefits of marriage counseling Building your support network Finding a therapist Telling your children about divorce Emotional healing and coping strategies And so much more……..

Steve Peck and Toni Morales are back, and asking the question, How's Your Sex Life ?

This program features world renowned hormone replacement specialist, Edward Lichten, M.D. . Many couples had sexual issues with their partner long before their relationship broke up. The question is, why and how do we prevent this in future relationships?

Dr. Lichten explains how environmental toxins are harming us and hurting our sex life. For our female listeners, can you remember your partner with no desire for sex, a lack of energy and feeling more depressed than he used to? And men, has your partner lost her drive for sex and did her periods cause emotional swings that made you feeling like you were living with a crazy person?

Dr. Lichten explains what's going on and tells how we can bring back the loving feelings you had the first time you fell in love through hormone replacement therapy. If you find yourself single and looking to begin a new, passionate and energetic life, this is the program for you.

For more information on Dr. Edward Lichten, visit his website at: www.USdoctor.com .

F or more program on divorce and life after divorce, visit:www.DivorceSourceRadio.com .

In this conversation with Psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg , we discuss the trials and tribulations of getting your life back on track after divorce.

It's not easy starting a new life again. In this program, we'll explore the Feelings, Hurt, Fear, Guilt and Betrayal, associated with divorce. We address Parental Alienation issues, due in part, to a partner's own personal abandonment issues they faced as a child. We'll also be discussing Parenting Issues such as How to Parent Your Child During Divorce.

And Finally, I ask Dr. Friedberg the ultimate question... What is Love?

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Divorce Coach, Shelley Stile discusses the grieving process during this series.

The hardest part of a loss is learning to accept this new reality and operate within the new geography. Nonetheless, it can and must be done. Once we have achieved a sense of closure, we can move forward. In every ending there is a new beginning but first we must accept the ending.

The loss involved in a divorce is as painful as a death. In many ways it is a death of an entire way of life. But what we need to know is this: it is not so much what happens to us in life, rather it is how we handle what happens to us that is important.

In this program, Shelley coaches us through:
The Stages of Grieving How to Overcome Your Divorce and Create a Bright Future Dealing with Anger and Negative Emotions The Signs of Depression after Divorce
Positive Parenting for the Sake of the Kids And much more

Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE Far too many divorcing couples get so caught up in the anger and drama of divorce that they forget what matters most...Our Kids!

Author and creator or the The Child Centered Divorce, Rosalind Sedacca , joins us and shares valuable insight on how to break the news to our children that mom and dad will no longer be living together.

One of the most difficult things to do after deciding you are getting a divorce is telling your children. Rosalind's book, How Do I Tell The Kids about the Divorce? - A Create-A-Story Book Guide for Preparing Your Children - with Love!, addresses this issue in a unique way.

By adopting the principles outlined in The Child Centered Divorce, families stand a greater chance of raising healthy children and reducing future co-parenting problems by divorcing with dignity. If you are planning to divorce and haven't yet told your kids, this is a program you need to hear.

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Divorce is a challenging and extremely stressful situation. With so much emotion involved many of us make a few mistakes during our divorce. If these mistakes involve decisions regarding your children, they can irreparably sever relationships that are important in children's lives.

In this program, I'd like to introduce you to the role a Divorce Recovery Coach plays during a divorce. My guest is Shelley Stile, a certified Divorce Recovery / Life Coach.

Shelley helps her clients navigate the difficult emotional terrain of this massive life transition. She helps them to release negative emotional baggage from their past - and - their divorce and teaches skills to accept their present life with little or no regrets, blame or resentment.

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On this episode of Being Single , Steve and Toni are back after a short hiatus as Steve goes on vacation and deals with his computer meltdown. Join the fun as we catch up and update our listeners on Toni's latest trip to the D as well as the fun and guests we have planned this summer! Show topics include:

Lets talk the Game of Love

Steve gives us recap of his vacation to Captiva Island. Did he do the walk of shame after a night of dancing?

How many pairs of sunglasses does a person really need?

Texting and dating etiquette? What happens if he doesn't respond?

He texted...or NOT.

How men and women deal with "the look" from across the room.

Say YES! to flirting

Lets talk about Toni's tattoo. Steve wants to know are you supposed to read or make love?

Toni is back in the "D" and she teaches Steve how to roll the dice.

Steve learns something new about Toni

Are you a dating chameleon?

What are your boundaries for change in a relationship

Are you the same dater that you were a year ago?

Steve has an epiphany!

Toni tries to get Steve to see that fish swim away.

Father's Day vs. Mothers Day - Who gets the better deal?

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On this episode of Being Single with Steve Peck and Toni Morales we discuss The Astrology of Relationships with YouTube Astrologer Grace, AKA GraceAnd4 on YouTube.

Steve and Toni have been fans of her YouTube Series on How to Get With a Man based on their astrological sign. Grace is also producing a series on How to Get With a Woman based on their astrological sign as well. Grace also tell why each sign "rocks" and "sucks" in relationships.

I you've ever wanted to know how your man or woman ticks, this is a "must hear" episode. To see more of Grace's videos visit: https://www.youtube.com/user/Graceand4 .

For more information on Toni visit: www.YouRiseAbove.com . For more programs on divorce and life after divorce visit: http://www.DivorceSourceRadio.com . And don't forget to join our Facebook community at: http://www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.com .

Steve and Toni are back for their third episode of Being Single and they're telling all about their past relationships!

Steve explains how an "emotional" affair can be as harmful as a sexual affair. Toni shares her experience with "downsizing" after divorce. She once thought living the dream meant the size of your home and how much 'bling" she owned. She now see things in a much different light and is grateful for what she has.

Toni and Steve, like many of our listeners, have been through quite a built since their divorce. This program is about things our single listeners can relate to including:
Is your astrological sign accurate? Favorite break-up songs Faith And much more
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Single Again! Now What? returns from the 4th of July break with Joanie telling tales of her trip with a friend to Nantucket . Have you ever been on a trip with a friend that seemed to control the flow of what you do and when you do it? This was Joanie's experience and she talks about having to call her friend after the trip to express her displeasure for the way things went. She values her friend but felt the need to get some things off her chest. We've all felt this way and Joanie shows us how being up-front is always the best way.

Steve talks of the great Mackinaw Island in Michigan and his new found love for coconut water. He also reminisces about a time when he was married and wanted to go to New Orleans with his wife and she didn't want to go. His solution... go by himself. Was this the right or wrong decision? You be the judge.

Other topics include:
Do wives control their husbands? Listener questions answered and much more.

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