Happiness Through Self Awareness

  1. #87 Changing Beliefs2024/03/13
    Changing Beliefs using the Self Mastery Course from PathwayToHappiness.com is explained by Gary van Warmerdam. I outline the beliefs at the root of negative thoughts and emotional reactions affecting behavior. Then I outline how the Self Mastery practices guide you to develop the skills needed to do an inventory of your beliefs and dissolve them.
  2. #86 Beliefs and Attention2023/12/17
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  3. #85 Beliefs are the Key to Change2023/11/30
    Changing beliefs will allow you to change your narrative story and emotions. Beliefs are also the foundation for how economic, political, monetary, and social systems work. If you want to understand any one of those aspects, you will need to understand how beliefs work because that is the basis.
  4. 84 Divided Will and Consciousness2023/09/20
    Your Will and Consciousness was divided early in your life during emotional events and repetition. This creates a fragmented mind.
    Recover those separate parts to feel whole and live in integrity.
  5. #83 How To Change a Belief2023/08/30
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  6. #82 Journey of the Soul from Fear to Love2023/08/29
    We knew how to be happy as children. It was natural for us. We learned to be stressed, judgmental, fearful, and in our head disconnected from the world and others through repetition. To break that partner requires a conscious intent for change. And it can be done. If I can do it, then you can do it.
  7. #81 Spiritual Power Journey Teotihuacan Mexico2023/08/08
    This Spiritual Power Journey is intently created so that you experience unconditional love and acceptance for yourself. That experience might come to you in a ceremony, a breathwork process, a meditation, a conversation with others, or while laughing and singing together.
  8. #80 What Are We? – An Exploration in Self Awareness2023/07/28
    As humans we are: Spiritual, Physical Body, Consciousness, Mind, Gender Energy, Emotions and a Soul. Getting all of those energy aspects working together can be quite a process
  9. #79 Why you don’t see reality2023/06/09
    You don't see reality. If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there, it does not make a sound. Even if someone is there, it still doesn't make a sound.
    You are the one that creates sound, and the visual images of what you see. Listen and find out why.
  10. #78 Your Attention is a Force2023/01/04
    Your attention is not just your focus, but a force with which to steer your life, thoughts, emotions, and personal change.
  11. #77 Relationship Connection the Secret Ingredient2022/01/06
    I got listened to and understood in a way that I felt important and valued. What I didn't know was that this wasn't an accident. The person listening to me was doing some very conscious and skillful things in their listening to help me have that experience.
  12. #76 Relationship Connection is Possible2021/12/28
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  13. #75 Relationship Connection – The Struggle2021/12/17
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  14. From Misery to Happiness2021/11/05
    Daniel's journey from misery to happiness took a lot of work. There were many ingredients essential to making his transformation happen and he shares it here in this interview with him.
  15. Why am I Unhappy2021/08/19
    The narrative story in our mind is what produces those negative thoughts, self-judgments, and emotions. It arises from the core beliefs we acquired earlier in life, and that can be re-programmed with awareness.
  16. #72 Conscious Dreaming2021/05/03
    The mind is dreaming all the time. It is dreaming when you are awake, and when you are asleep. The consciousness process involves waking up from these dreams that run through your head. Most often they appear as narrative stories. What will change your life is when you take charge of the dreams in your mind during the day instead of allowing them to dream you.
  17. #71 The Dream of Maya2021/03/16
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  18. #70 Mastering the Mental Game2021/02/25
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  19. #69 Self Awareness – Why do people believe crazy lies, conspiracy theories, and illusions?2020/12/08
    Figuring out the truth isn't straightforward. Consider this; the mind is the mechanism that we use to discern the truth. However, this is the same mind that generates stories, false narratives, daydreams, and fictional realities in our heads. These two uses of the mind are contradictory. It's no wonder people are having difficulty seeing the difference between truth and a made-up story.
  20. #68 Voices in your Head2020/10/26
    The voices in your head are normal. They are the patterns of thoughts arising from unconscious beliefs. They can be funny, frightening, random or chaotic, and possibly cause deep suffering.
  21. #67 Consciousness and moving Beyond the Mind2020/08/31
    Eva Beronius and Gary van Warmerdam explore moving from identifying with the mind to realizing our Self as Consciousness.
  22. #66 Trauma symptoms and treatments2020/08/25
    Trauma is often the cause of anxiety, depression, ADHD, anger, harsh self judgment, suicidal thoughts, and other mood disorders. It is much more common than you think. You don't just get PTSD from wartime combat. Your brain and nervous system can be altered from sexual assault, abuse, bullying, emotionally abusive parents, even if they never hit you, surgery, or a car accident.
  23. #65 Beliefs I’m Broken and Unlovable that Produce Shame2020/07/28
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  24. #63 Overcoming Trauma and Living Happy2020/07/21
    My interview with Anna and her journey out of trauma reactions using the skills and perspectives she learned in the Self Mastery practices. Combining them with EMDR treatments and other modalities to go from anxiety, depression, anger and suicidal thoughts, to Living Happy.
  25. #62 Overwhelmed with Emotions – Why am I so Angry?2020/06/16
    Where do you start making changes when you are overwhelmed with emotions? Understanding the deep sources of emotions help us move into compassion, and decrease the impact of the Inner Judge. Beginning steps include acknowledging where you are, accepting it, and then finding one small change to get you started.
  26. #61-Fear Virus – Live Self Mastery Get Together2020/03/23
    There is a fear virus going through people's minds and emotions at the same time there is a biological Corona virus infecting people's physical bodies. The spread of fear is a lot faster and more widespread. There are things you can do to protect yourself, and improve your emotional state.
  27. #60 Emotional Wounds and Relationship Baggage2020/02/24
    Emotional wounds show up as our "baggage" in relationships. They are our unhealed emotions and beliefs from past experiences and affect our current relationships. Physical wounds can be seen but emotional wounds are invisible. They are experienced as emotional reactions, negative thoughts, and sabotaging behaviors. Understand them and you will be more compassionate to yourself and others.
  28. #59 Self Mastery Interview with Eva2019/11/12
    Interview with Eva, a Self Mastery Course subscriber who worked her way out of panic attacks, anxiety, depression, and career burnout to build a completely different life. Letting go of fears and eventually feeling joy and love was a surprise change, until it became the new normal.
  29. #58: How to Relax2019/11/05
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  30. #57: Critical voice in your head2018/11/06
    The critical voice in your head telling you whether you are succeeding or failing at things is actually pretty stupid. It sounds smart, acts confident, and pretends to be an expert. However, it hasn't actually done any of the things it is criticizing you about.
  31. #56: Social anxiety from unconscious beliefs2018/08/23
    A man shares what he discovers as the source of his social anxiety that began when he was in 3rd grade. In this podcast I describe a process to dig into the layers of your unconscious beliefs, and release the emotional beliefs trapped there.
  32. #55: Origin of ego and false beliefs of identity2016/11/12
    What are the false beliefs that form our Ego? Where do our false beliefs come from? When did we begin to get these false beliefs o our identity and lose touch with our authentic self?
  33. #54: How do you recognize the truth?2016/11/07
    From a consciousness perspective, even statements that are factual are still not the Truth. Words are what we use to describe a thing, or facts. But words are not the thing itself.
  34. #53: Why lie to your self?2016/10/30
    Lying to your self can cause a response in the reasoning part of your brain that makes you feel good. Sometimes people confuse this good feeling with being right, or feeling that they have just agreed with an explanation that is truthful.
  35. #52: Self loathing2016/08/03
    Self loathing is a strong hatred towards oneself. You will also find with it a lot of internal thoughts of criticism and self judgment. Underneath that there will be a layer of beliefs relating to worthlessness.
  36. #51: Unconscious beliefs2016/07/20
    Unconscious beliefs are agreements we have in our mind that we have no awareness we are holding. In spite of not having any intellectual knowledge of our own beliefs, they can still cause us to have emotional reactions and sabotaging behaviors.
  37. #50: Personal power and responsibility2016/06/12
    When you take responsibility for your life, you also accept a power over it. Taking responsibility for the good stuff is easy, it is the not so good stuff that feels uncomfortable. But this is what you want the power to change.
  38. #49: Anxiety – understanding it differently2016/02/23
    Attempts to overcoming or at least reduce anxiety tend to fail. Perhaps our efforts fail because we are applying the wrong understanding, and therefore the wrong model for changing it.
  39. #48: Becoming the observer – mindfulness practice2016/01/07
    When we act in the way of a neutral observer we notice different things. We notice when thoughts are arising from parts of our ego and the emotions they produce. We can also notice the idealized version in the background of our mind being used as comparison.
  40. #47: Reality, projections and illusions2015/12/10
    Once you realize that the mind that is distorting things is at the beginning of our perception and interpretation of events, you become aware that perceiving reality is much more difficult.
  41. #46: Affirmations can backfire2015/11/16
    Sometimes people get poor results with affirmations. When they say positive things about themselves the dialogue of thoughts in their head pushes back with harsh negative comments.
  42. #45: The Hero’s journey2013/04/26
    The hero's journey is the classic tale often told through movies and stories going back to The Odyssey by Homer and many modern versions. It's appeal is that it represents our journey to create peace and happiness within our self and our own mind.
  43. #44: Persistence and resistance2012/05/21
    What does resistance look like and how do you navigate around it to make changes in your self? Jamie is one of the most persistent people at doing personal change work that I know. She also resists change, happiness and unconditional love more than just about anyone I know.
  44. #43: Overcoming insecurity and develop confidence2012/04/19
    Attempts to develop confidence often fail because they revolve around projecting a positive self image or achieving success. Unfortunately these two things don't eliminate other beliefs causing feelings of insecurity.
  45. #42: Stop beating your self up2012/02/19
    To effectively change the thoughts and beliefs we beat our self up with it is important to look at the problem differently. That's what I do in this episode on what specifically happens when you are "beating yourself up".
  46. #41: Meditation for beginners2012/01/09
    This simple meditation lets anyone begin to enter into a state of mindfulness using a very common sense practical approach. What our mind construes as a deeply mystical thing like meditation doesn't have to be so esoteric.
  47. #40: Self awareness and mindfulness2011/12/12
    Understanding how your mind creates emotional reactions is key to making personal change. This understanding of the mind is done through mindfulness, also know as Self Awareness.
  48. #39: What is a belief?2011/11/14
    A belief begins as a conceptual idea in our mind. Then our imagination turns it into something like a dream, or virtual reality. A belief, particularly a false belief, has the capacity to create an illusion in our imagination that seems like reality.
  49. #38: Self Mastery Course results interview2011/05/17
    David served in the Army and National Guard. After responding to the World Trade Center and Afghanistan he came home and discovered that his emotional reactions were out of control and inappropriate. In this interview he shares how the Self Mastery course has helped him.
  50. #37: Confusion about love, compassion, hope, integrity and loyalty2011/04/14
    Even the basic building blocks of language such as words can be distorted and made confusing by how the mind alters their meaning when we are not aware.
  51. #36: Anger management2011/03/22
    I don't think we should just manage our anger. I believe in eliminating anger. Trying to control triggers, circumstances, and other people so we don't become angry is too much work.
  52. #35: Sexual performance anxiety2011/02/03
    At the core of sexual performance anxiety are fear of failure, rejection from our partner and self rejection. These expressions take place in our mind and affect our emotions.
  53. #34: Spiritual journey interview2010/08/25
    Carolyn comes to a seven day intensive and discovers what it is like to shed fear based self judgments from her childhood and embrace the experience of unconditional love. It's no longer an intellectual idea that she reads about in books. It is a tangible way of living life that is now a very real possibility for her life.
  54. #33: Inception and the life of an idea in the mind2010/08/03
    Careful observation reveals that ideas, thoughts, and beliefs behave as if they are alive in the mind. When ideas grow and link together with other ideas they become big stories and can have multiple points of view and tangents.
  55. #32: The most important thing for your happiness2010/06/23
    Sometimes it helps to take a step back and have a sense of humor about the process of overcoming fears, identifying and changing core beliefs.
  56. #31: Miguel Ruiz and The Fifth Agreement2010/05/12
    An interview with Miguel Ruiz about his book that is written with his son Jose Ruiz. We also talk about how the belief system creates a virtual reality, how we distort love, how to use doubt to question your beliefs and other things.
  57. #30: Overcoming anger using the Self Mastery program2010/03/26
    I interviewed Joe who used the Self Mastery course to overcome his anger and anxiety reactions. He’s started to be aware that some of his emotional reactions are completely gone.
  58. #29: Faith: the power behind your beliefs2010/02/17
    Faith is more than a set of beliefs there is no evidence for or a doctrine of religious beliefs. Faith is a force. It is an aspect of your personal will power that you can use in various ways.
  59. #28: Conscious awakening2010/01/21
    Waking up to the unconscious beliefs in your mind is an uncomfortable and disconcerting realization. In this episode I outline what is happening so you can keep the process in a larger perspective.
  60. #27: Reasoning your way out of fear2009/07/17
    Applying reasoning skills to overcoming fears is an uphill battle. That's because the emotions we feel push us against accepting truthful reasoning. That's because our fictional, or false beliefs often make us feel better emotionally.
  61. #26: Overcoming fear of what others think of you2009/06/15
    There is a structure of beliefs that support the fear of what others think of you. When you dismantle these beliefs, your fear dissipates, as well as the internal dialog that it drives. In this podcast I guide you through some of the resistance you will probably find when you attempt to overcome your fears.
  62. #25: Overcoming controlling behavior of jealousy and anger2009/04/06
    David started the Self Mastery Course because of emotions and behaviors for jealousy, anger and controlling in relationships. It was difficult to see himself having this problem because David's belief system masked and justified his behavior as "helping people". In his mind he was serving and helping people.
  63. #24: Fear and origins of the financial crisis2009/02/19
    I cover how to use awareness to break free of fearful resistance to taking action. Jut for fun I also get into understanding origins of the financial crisis. The problem with bubbles, financial, romantic, or otherwise, is that they originate in the mind as illusions.
  64. #23: Dealing with financial fears2009/01/22
    Dealing with and overcoming financial fears isn't a one step process. Those fears can be intertwined with real survival needs for the body like food, shelter, and providing for your children. Financial fears can also be from projected scenarios in the imagination that have nothing to do with reality.
  65. #22: Change your life – interview with Holly2008/12/12
    In this interview I follow up with Holly who I interviewed in early 2007. She has continued to practice the exercises in the Self Mastery Course 1 and added the practices from the Self Mastery Course 2. The result is that she has transformed her emotions from fear to love.
  66. #21: Fear Doctrine: The creation of anger and agression2008/10/29
    Fear is at the core of anger and aggression. Yet we become so busy with the strategy of control and the act of aggression we rarely see the cause. We can see the emotional dynamic at work whether we look at our internal thoughts, relationships or the macro relationships of countries.
  67. #20: The value of a spiritual teacher or mentor2008/07/25
    If the emotional quality of your life and relationships were solely dependent on how smart you were then you wouldn't need a teacher. But that isn't the case. A book can't teach or model for you self acceptance, respect, love or gratitude.
  68. #19: Understanding the spiritual journey2008/06/26
    All self help, personal development, growth, and self awareness work is part of the Spiritual Journey. That's because Spirit means Life. The mystery of the Spiritual Journey is that it happens within the realm of your perceptions, mind, emotions, and consciousness.
  69. #18: Changing habits and overcoming addictions2008/05/17
    People attempt to change a habit or addiction by going cold turkey. This often raises the expectation too high and can set a person up for failure if they don’t yet have a lot of personal power or discipline. The result is failing and self judgment.
  70. #17: Self Judgment2008/04/07
    Self Judgment is the most common type of abuse. It’s self abuse. No one is more critical of you than the voice in your head. If anyone else talked to you the way the Judge in your mind spoke to you, you would fight back or walk away from them.
  71. #16: Faith and personal power2008/01/24
    Faith is a force. It is part of your life force. When you express your faith you are expressing part of your personal power. If you are seeking to develop more personal power, one of the fastest ways is to recover your faith from all the beliefs in your mind you have invested it in.
  72. #15: Finding your self2007/08/20
    Finding your self or figuring out who you are is one of those eternal questions. We often struggle with it as teenagers, then again in our thirties, or during a mid life crisis. The struggle to know thy Self is as old as spiritual traditions that attempted to answer the question.
  73. #14: Free will2007/07/01
    Do you have free will? Is there even such a thing as free will? It is true that we are to some degree products of our environment. Our minds get filled with ideas, beliefs and emotional patterns as we grow up.
  74. #13: How to tell if a relationship will work2007/04/11
    There are specific indicators to tell if your relationship will run into trouble down the road. The signs aren’t found in how much love, romance or physical attraction there is. Two people can have great chemistry but still not be compatible.
  75. #12: Don’t take anything personally2007/02/23
    In the book, The Four Agreements, Miguel Ruiz outlines a code of conduct for creating love and happiness in your life. One of his Four Agreements is “Don’t Take Anything Personally". In this episode I describe some of the hidden assumptions that cause us to take things personally.
  76. #11: The ego mind and consciousness2007/01/28
    Understanding the ego mind and consciousness means becoming aware of the way our mind dreams. The ego mind has more than just thoughts and beliefs; it has emotions, memories, visual images and a life of its own. When we believe what our imagination dreams we can get lost in a world of illusions.
  77. #10: Can you change your life2007/01/01
    I often get asked if people can really change their life. They want to known if they can overcome fears, stop the judgments, and quiet the voice in their head. The answer is yes. However, when people ask, they usually ask with such fear and doubt that almost no amount of words will suffice. Perhaps this interview will help overcome some of those doubts.
  78. #09: Fear of love and happiness2006/12/01
    It might be hard to believe that we fear love and happiness, but it is a real dynamic that happens in the mind. It is easier to understand if we consider the mind to be a living being with many different aspects. We are essentially killing off false self images of our personality.
  79. #08: Fear and overcoming fear2006/11/15
    Fear is that emotional force that drives us in a direction away from joy, happiness, and love. Fear can paralyze us to the point that we feel helpless and suffocated. Often fear appears irrational, but it only looks this way at the surface.
  80. #07: Identify and change core beliefs2006/10/31
    What are core beliefs and how do you identify them? That’s what many people are realizing they need to do to change their emotional reactions. The problem is where do you look to find core beliefs?
  81. #06: Love relationships part II2006/10/11
    Our body has physical desires, our emotions have a desire to express love and our mind has a desire to have its beliefs and expectations met. This can create some internal conflict that gets more complicated when we add another person's desires to the mix.
  82. #05: Love relationships part I2006/09/30
    Desires for a relationship come from deep within us. They aren’t desires for a specific person so much as a need for expression and experience of connection and feeling that we can have with another person. Those desires include the emotion of love, physical affection and sexual satisfaction.
  83. #04: Happiness as choice2006/09/12
    Experts will advise you that in order to be happy you first have to make yourself happy. What they usually can’t explain is how to make your self happy. What I try to uncover in my work and in this audio is some of the mystery that surrounds an individual’s happiness.
  84. #03: Emotional reactions2006/08/22
    When it comes to stopping or changing emotional reactions people often approach the problem like they are fixing a car. The assumption seems to be that if we change one thing the whole problem will go away.
  85. #02: The Four Agreements and hidden assumptions2006/08/15
    In this episode I cover some places that assumptions hide. I do a little poking around to show you what they look like. I also show how they lead us down dark alleys chasing illusions in our mind. Becoming aware of those dark alleys of mental illusions will make it easier to get out.
  86. #01: Feeling not good enough – beliefs2006/08/11
    A big component of feeling insecure is the image of perfection that we create in our mind. When the voice in our head compares us to that image of perfection it concludes that we are not good enough. Buying into this comparison with an imagined self is what creates the feeling of not being good enough.
Awareness and Consciousness
Explore changing beliefs, discovering unconscious beliefs, emotions, and how your mind works. Using conscious awareness to step outside your mind and ego patterns you will have methods of change that were unimaginable.